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Wasn't there a study or book out a few years ago that said the more choices we have, the less happy we are? Maybe it should be a bell curve.

Still, point taken. :)

"Stumbling upon Happiness" may not be the book you're refering to, but this is also one of it's premises. Basically, when you have less freedom/choices, you accept this and move on with life. If you do have lots of choices, you have to worry about making the right one, having regret, being unhappy despite having made the choice yourself... ect.

i keep hearing people (my parents, high school teachers, piano teacher, etc) with happy 30-ish yr marriages say the same things over and over.. the marriage works because/if you want it to, and if you don't flock to divorce as the immediate option. aka love the person you married, accept and understand what sparks fights and then try to work around them, stop looking at the menu after you've ordered, and divorce only under 3 circumstances: abuse, adultery, and i forget the third one.

The third one is if your spouse gets really fat.

@Stevensplinter
The Paradox of Choice: Why Less is More might be what you are looking for.
here is the author giving a presentation on it.
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=6127548813950043200

Girl aint it true!

Responding to "Hi, how are you?"s are kind of like that also.

stop looking at the menu after you've ordered

But when I saw what the next table ordered I felt like changing my order. Mmmm, mighty delicious.

Simplicity would be key.

I would say that a should be relationships or something else as if it was love there may be many options available but no indecision.

My girlfriend has found this to be especially true when it comes to buying handbags!